The Rival

here and there is home as I see it there's a line between you and I

The Symbols

Hummingbird, House or Treehouse, River, City, Ladder/Bridge, Evening

Might Mean

Boundaries: establishing boundaries, duality, mutual respect, attachment, distance, shadow unconscious and projection onto others

Individuality: standing up for oneself, asserting personal needs, reinforcing the ego, separation

Opposition: challenging the other or the status quo, confrontation, competition, control, tension, protest, disagreement, fighting, war, tearing apart

For Example

Movie Clips & Videos:

A Marriage Story

The different kinds of love - Joseph Campbell

The role of projections in love - Joseph Campbell

Adam Driver: "Marriage Story" Is A Love Story About Divorce,
St-Vincent – good fences makes good neighbors,
Don Quixote – study in opposites, creativity, and individualism,
Jung and the Shadow System, Shadow Projection of the Self

Podcasts:
Rallying To Keep The Game Alive (Modern Love),
Sleeping With The Enemy (a man befriends his girlfriend's animus, or male aspects of a female’s psyche)

Songs:
When Doves Cry – Prince,
Archipelago – Andrew Bird

Archipelago – Andrew Bird

Writings:
Co-Existing With The "Other",
How To Fix the Fights You're Sick of Having,
The Paradoxical Psychology of Romance,
The Most Important Factor in a Relationship is Respect,
How the Male and Female in Us Affect Relationships

Personal Boundaries, Rivalry, Duality, Transference,
Chivalry, Courtly Love, Anima and Animus, Limerence

"Just as it is customary for people to believe that pain and sadness should be avoided under all circumstances, they believe that love means the absence of any conflict. And they find good reason for this idea in the fact that the struggles around them seem only to be destructive exchanges which bring no good to either one of those concerned.

But the reason for this lies in the fact that the conflicts of most people are actually attempts to avoid the real conflicts. They are disagreements on minor or superficial matters which by their very nature do not lend themselves to clarification or solution.

Real conflicts between two people, those which do not serve to cover up or to project, but which are experienced on the deep level of inner quality to which they belong, are not destructive. They lead to clarification, they produce a catharsis from which both persons emerge with more knowledge and more strength. "

– Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving (p.95)